Asian Dating World

When a member joins a online dating site, usually their expectations are pretty high. Not all, but most believe that all they have to do is sign up, upload an image and their love life will be on autopilot until they find the one meant for them. It doesn’t work that way when you are looking for love off site nor does it work that way when you are looking for love online.

Many who join one of my sites, believe they should find a lifetime partner within a few weeks of joining. Hell, I spend more than a few weeks shopping for a large purchase item, yet many searching for love online thinks a few weeks or even a few days is plenty of time to find the love of their life. Even though I see this type of fast food mentality daily on my sites, I still have a hard time comprehending how anyone can believe true love can be found in a few weeks. I’m not saying that you can’t meet someone within a few weeks, or even a few days, but before you fall in love with someone, you need to get to know them and that requires a little time and effort.

What constitutes effort is what dramatically differs between myself and a fast food mentality member who thinks a few emails is making an effort.  When I was searching for love, effort meant I searched daily, I wrote hundreds if not thousands of emails, I met many ladies and got to know them each individually, I called, I listen, and kept searching until I found the one who I knew would be my lifetime partner. Not just an online love affair, but a partner who I could spend the rest of my life with. That doesn’t usually happen in a few weeks or with a few emails, but by putting your heart and soul into your search for the one meant for you.

Now if you ask me can someone find the love of their life in a few weeks, the answer is probably yes, but usually that is the exception rather than the rule. Normally if you are going to find someone that will love you for the rest of your life you have to dedicate yourself to not giving up and being brutally honest in your search for love. If you are not, you are only hurting yourself.

So after you have filled out your profile and uploaded your image, the real effort to finding love begins. You have to search, get to know members, network your profile, get involved with the community and be active in your quest for love. If you think all you have to do is fill out a profile and upload an image to find love, than you are probably the same person who believes all you have to do to have a good marriage is to get married. Nope, it takes effort. As someone once told me, “you have to prove you are worthy of love before love finds you worthy.”