Asian Dating World

To get my idea across to readers, I thought my first post would generalize my basic thoughts or concerns about online dating, specifically Asian online dating.

I have been running an Asian dating site for years. The success of the site is moderate but not without having moments of greatness. Quite a few people have met, fell in love and married as a member of one of my sites. Over the years, trends have come and gone but the one trend that has completely flip flopped is what I call the “gender trend”. Let me explain.

When I first started an Asian dating site (over 8 years ago) getting male members was quite easy. There was no shortage of men wanting to meet an Asian lady. The problem was, I never seem to have enough ladies to meet all the male members. The ratio was almost 3 to 1. For every lady member, there were at least 3 men. Today it has flip flopped. Now I have a lot more lady members than male members. The ratio is almost 5 to 1. Amazing.

Why the flip flop has been discussed through out the dating world, but the economy seems to be the number one culprit. The theory is that because of the economy, most Western men are cash strapped and are not as willing to get involved with a foreign lady knowing that there is an expense involved to bring and  marry a foreign lady  in their country. Falling in love and finding out you can’t afford to bring her to your home country is a heartache that most men try to avoid.

The other reasons are not as pronounced, but there are many theories floating on the net with most of them having to do with scammers. You could blame the economy for scamming as well. As the economy crashes, people are hard pressed into doing things they are not proud of but will do to survive.

Scammers are not welcomed by webmasters, but avoiding them is like trying to catch rain drops with a fork. They are everywhere. It doesn’t matter if you are a big corporate site (i.e. facebook, youtube, yahoo etc), scammers come and go. Smaller sites, like mine, get their share of scammers as well. We take the same approach as the big boys (i.e. facebook, yahoo, youtube, etc) and ask members if someone tries to scam them, please report it. When they do, the scammers are gone.

Another possible reason is a pet peeve of mine. I’m bound to be slammed for my words, but I can’t help to say that lifestyles and cultures has changed since my time. Today’s society is more of a fast food mentality wanting everything to be quick and easy, even when searching for love. Me calling today’s searchers lazy is not going to endear me to most, but the lack of effort is all the evidence I need to come to this conclusion.  I look at how much effort a member puts into their profile and I wonder if they think that is all it takes to find love. It must be a trend, because most members do the bare minimum to get by.

Yet, people do find love. It shouldn’t be news that those that do find love, make the effort to do so. However,  the fast food mentality group complains when they don’t find love and even when  it comes knocking on their door, they are too lazy to open it. I don’t give up on them and keep trying to encourage them to network their profiles (we give them tons of tools to do so), but most slip into the “I will do as little as possible” syndrome wanting love to do all the work for them.

Ok, I’ll close with my last thought. Love is to be found, even on an Asian dating site. If cost is an issue, I always tell my members I started to save the money I was spending while roaming bars for love and when the time was right, I had saved more than enough to be with the one I loved and her with me.

Good Luck
FilipinaEyes